I'm just coming across some GREAT stuff this week having to do with marriages/relationships! I've come to "meet" Jenny through a mutual friend of ours and ever since I've discovered her blog, I've found myself WAITING for her newest blog entries to be posted!
She's insightful, whitty, pure hearted, makes you laugh at yourself, and she's......HONEST! She wears her thoughts, emotions, feelings on her sleeve and it's SO refreshing when she holds nothing back. Even on the touchiest subjects she's right there talking about them.
So, once again, if your married, engaged, dating...READ THIS! You'll laugh, you'll have "ah ha" moments and find yourself saying "that has happened to me too"! ;-)
The Imagination of Jenny Lynne: Sleep. Socks. Stay. Sexy. Shart.
A big thank you to Jenny for taking the time to share her thoughts and write them down for all of us to read!! :-)
Enjoy!
8.26.2011
8.24.2011
"IF ONLY"
Hello All! :-)
Saw this link posted on my friend's Facebook page and it is a MUST share! I think anyone who is married or engaged, even if none of the things mentioned apply to you or your spouse, you should take the time to read this, it's short and sweet and very much to the point.
"There are so many things that your marriage can survive. You marriage can survive miscommunication. Your marriage can survive busy schedules. Your marriage can overcome conflict with your in-laws. Your marriage can get through sexual brokenness and unforgiveness. But, there are two words that will eventually bring an end to your marriage…if not legally then definitely emotionally.
The two words are…
…IF ONLY…
If only my wife had sex with me more often
If only my husband looked at me like my boss does
If only we had kids
If only we made more money
If only we lived in a bigger house
If only we would have dated longer
If only she took care of herself like the lady at the gym
If only my high school boyfriend and I would have stayed together
If only we hadn’t had kids so young
If only she understood me
If only he listened to me
If only I knew we were soul mates
If only she cooked more or better
If only he could do things around the house
If only causes you to focus on what isn’t rather than on what is. If only allows your mind to fantasize about someone that isn’t your spouse. If only believes the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. If only paralyzes us in the pursuit of our spouse and convinces us that a perfect marriage is competently up to the other person. If only will slowly destroy intimacy and leave you in a place of resentment. If only will trick you into believing that the best days of your marriage are behind you and and not ahead of you.
The best thing you can do for your marriage today is remove “if only” from your mind and heart.
You can’t change the past, but you can prevent the past from destroying your future.
Do you struggle with the thought of “if only”?"
To go to the blog of the couple that wrote this post...here is the direct link to the post I just shared...
http://refineus.org/2011/08/2-words/
I'd have to say that I completely agree with this post. Not only can a marriage not tolerate those two words for too long, but individuals alone will eventually begin to fall apart constantly thinking "if only I'd done this or if only I'd done that". I'm often saddened by listening to people (including MYSELF) constantly think about the what ifs and the if onlys instead of focusing on what they have right in front of them. Thankfully, I've become a lot better with doing that to myself. When I was younger, especially in high school, "what if" and "if only" seemed to be making an appearance in vocabulary often, as well as a couple years into my college years, before I started to shape up and realize that I was deserving of everything that I had and that everything happened to me for a reason. I still believe that to my core today. I hope that everyone can see the good in everything that they have right in front of them. I honestly feel that life would be SO boring if we had everything we ever wanted...then was is there to work for?! ;-) I kind of strayed a little off topic, lol, sometimes I just can't help it ;-)
What are your thoughts on this? Please feel free to share! :-) This is a NO JUDGEMENT environment, so please respect that others have different thoughts and opinions to share.
THANKS YOU GUYS! :-) Looking forward to hearing what all your thoughts are :-)
Saw this link posted on my friend's Facebook page and it is a MUST share! I think anyone who is married or engaged, even if none of the things mentioned apply to you or your spouse, you should take the time to read this, it's short and sweet and very much to the point.
"There are so many things that your marriage can survive. You marriage can survive miscommunication. Your marriage can survive busy schedules. Your marriage can overcome conflict with your in-laws. Your marriage can get through sexual brokenness and unforgiveness. But, there are two words that will eventually bring an end to your marriage…if not legally then definitely emotionally.
The two words are…
…IF ONLY…
If only my wife had sex with me more often
If only my husband looked at me like my boss does
If only we had kids
If only we made more money
If only we lived in a bigger house
If only we would have dated longer
If only she took care of herself like the lady at the gym
If only my high school boyfriend and I would have stayed together
If only we hadn’t had kids so young
If only she understood me
If only he listened to me
If only I knew we were soul mates
If only she cooked more or better
If only he could do things around the house
If only causes you to focus on what isn’t rather than on what is. If only allows your mind to fantasize about someone that isn’t your spouse. If only believes the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. If only paralyzes us in the pursuit of our spouse and convinces us that a perfect marriage is competently up to the other person. If only will slowly destroy intimacy and leave you in a place of resentment. If only will trick you into believing that the best days of your marriage are behind you and and not ahead of you.
The best thing you can do for your marriage today is remove “if only” from your mind and heart.
You can’t change the past, but you can prevent the past from destroying your future.
Do you struggle with the thought of “if only”?"
To go to the blog of the couple that wrote this post...here is the direct link to the post I just shared...
http://refineus.org/2011/08/2-words/
I'd have to say that I completely agree with this post. Not only can a marriage not tolerate those two words for too long, but individuals alone will eventually begin to fall apart constantly thinking "if only I'd done this or if only I'd done that". I'm often saddened by listening to people (including MYSELF) constantly think about the what ifs and the if onlys instead of focusing on what they have right in front of them. Thankfully, I've become a lot better with doing that to myself. When I was younger, especially in high school, "what if" and "if only" seemed to be making an appearance in vocabulary often, as well as a couple years into my college years, before I started to shape up and realize that I was deserving of everything that I had and that everything happened to me for a reason. I still believe that to my core today. I hope that everyone can see the good in everything that they have right in front of them. I honestly feel that life would be SO boring if we had everything we ever wanted...then was is there to work for?! ;-) I kind of strayed a little off topic, lol, sometimes I just can't help it ;-)
What are your thoughts on this? Please feel free to share! :-) This is a NO JUDGEMENT environment, so please respect that others have different thoughts and opinions to share.
THANKS YOU GUYS! :-) Looking forward to hearing what all your thoughts are :-)
8.12.2011
Week 4 - CHECK, 10lbs lost - CHECK!
I. freakin. DID IT!!!!
Weighed in today and....BAM! The number looking back at me on the scale was 194.6lbs...I LOST 10LBS (in 4 weeks)!! I can't believe I've already hit my first bench mark in my weight loss journey!
I can't even begin to explain what I'm feeling and thinking....so much to the point where I'm speechless and this may be the shortest post I ever write! LOL! However, I get to go reward myself with a pedicure today!! :-)
I hope you all are doing amazing with your journey!
Weighed in today and....BAM! The number looking back at me on the scale was 194.6lbs...I LOST 10LBS (in 4 weeks)!! I can't believe I've already hit my first bench mark in my weight loss journey!
I can't even begin to explain what I'm feeling and thinking....so much to the point where I'm speechless and this may be the shortest post I ever write! LOL! However, I get to go reward myself with a pedicure today!! :-)
I hope you all are doing amazing with your journey!
8.06.2011
Can days be more than 24 hours long??
I swear I'm still alive! LOL!
These past couple weeks since the last time I've blogged have been IN-SANE to say the least. We are literally DAYS from peak season here at the apartment complex and we've been running around like you wouldn't believe just with the few apartments we started turning over...kinda makes me nervous what peak season is gonna do LOL!
Anyways, since my last post I'm at a total weight loss of about 7 pounds, give or take a decimal point! YAY!! I'm working on my 4th week on my new mission and I feel absolutely great about how it's going. For the first time in my life, it seriously doesn't feel like I'm on a diet!!! I have to give all the credit to www.myfitnesspal.com for not making it feel like one. It's a-mazing!
The only thing that I would've changed the past couple weeks is the fact that with it being so busy around here for the apartments, I haven't been keeping up on my walking, which I miss TERRIBLY, and I had a couple soft serve ice cream cones from a local fast food joint a couple times. I never went over my calorie intake...but still could've made a better choice! I finally had to just push myself to go to the store to get my "go to" dessert....whipped topping mixed with a fat free chocolate pudding cup...and you get chocolate mousse! LOVE IT! I could eat it all the time! ;-)
I also found myself falling into the emotional eating problem I used to have but thankfully I put myself in check shortly after I started to. It's been a very dramatic time for us...with so many different emotions that we've been dealing with. Anywhere from family stuff from both families to finding out that Derek only has a YEAR left in school and he will be a COLLEGE GRAD!! AHHH! I so can't wait, I'm so (pardon my french) damn proud of him!! Not only does this man juggle 2 jobs (3 if you count the apartment job), goes to school FULL TIME and manages to still have enough energy to come home and be a family man! I honestly don't know where he gets the strength and energy, but I'm sure glad he does. I've been dreaming about the moment he walks up to get his degree for about a year now and I always get super emotional! It's just going to be a HUGE step for our family. Not to mention that when he graduates, we'll FINALLY get to start looking to move back to our families!!!!! It's been a LONG LONG LONG time coming! I'm just so ready to be back by our families so we can feel like we're apart of them again and so Miss K can be with everyone as much as possible. It will be really weird to leave this place since it's been our home for 7 years next month, but we're ready for another big change. I keep trying not to think of everything we'll have to deal with when the time gets closer...haha...but my mind tends to wonder over that way and I start to freak out a little :-)
Another major reason I'm so ready to get back to my hometown besides my family being the #1 reason...but MY FRIENDS. I miss them DEARLY! I'm just amazed at how well I've been able to keep in touch with them being here for so long and not miss a beat with the ones that mean the most to me. I'm also excited to reconnect with some that I sort of lost touch with over the years but there aren't any hard feelings. JUST. CAN'T. WAIT!
I'm also trying to be a good girl with the whole dieting thing because Derek and I are coming up on our 2nd wedding anniversary...and we WILL eat at our favorite place which is NOT the healthiest hahaha! I'll really have to make sure that I get an extra workout or two in that week to make up for the crappy food consumption ;-)
I really ready to hit the 10lbs loss mark! I get to treat myself to a pedicure and my poor feet need it! This hot weather just dries my skin out so bad and my feet are the first to go!
What are some of your guys' "treats" you do for yourself when you hit a milestone in your weight loss journey?? I'm thinking that this is what I want to do for all of mine...
- - 10 pounds - Pedicure
- - 20 pounds - Donate my hair to "Locks of Love" and get me a new hairdo! :-) My hair is ridiculously long right now!
- - 30 pounds - New running shoes - I might switch this with the 20 pound mark...not sure yet.
- - 40 pounds - (Still not sure what to do here....suggestions??)
- - 50 pounds - Something top secret, a small wardrobe refreshing - either maternity clothes or pre-pregnancy clothes, and of course BABY #2!
For those of you sharing the shame weight loss journey, hope you're doing amazing too!!!
LOTS OF LOVE!
These past couple weeks since the last time I've blogged have been IN-SANE to say the least. We are literally DAYS from peak season here at the apartment complex and we've been running around like you wouldn't believe just with the few apartments we started turning over...kinda makes me nervous what peak season is gonna do LOL!
Anyways, since my last post I'm at a total weight loss of about 7 pounds, give or take a decimal point! YAY!! I'm working on my 4th week on my new mission and I feel absolutely great about how it's going. For the first time in my life, it seriously doesn't feel like I'm on a diet!!! I have to give all the credit to www.myfitnesspal.com for not making it feel like one. It's a-mazing!
The only thing that I would've changed the past couple weeks is the fact that with it being so busy around here for the apartments, I haven't been keeping up on my walking, which I miss TERRIBLY, and I had a couple soft serve ice cream cones from a local fast food joint a couple times. I never went over my calorie intake...but still could've made a better choice! I finally had to just push myself to go to the store to get my "go to" dessert....whipped topping mixed with a fat free chocolate pudding cup...and you get chocolate mousse! LOVE IT! I could eat it all the time! ;-)
I also found myself falling into the emotional eating problem I used to have but thankfully I put myself in check shortly after I started to. It's been a very dramatic time for us...with so many different emotions that we've been dealing with. Anywhere from family stuff from both families to finding out that Derek only has a YEAR left in school and he will be a COLLEGE GRAD!! AHHH! I so can't wait, I'm so (pardon my french) damn proud of him!! Not only does this man juggle 2 jobs (3 if you count the apartment job), goes to school FULL TIME and manages to still have enough energy to come home and be a family man! I honestly don't know where he gets the strength and energy, but I'm sure glad he does. I've been dreaming about the moment he walks up to get his degree for about a year now and I always get super emotional! It's just going to be a HUGE step for our family. Not to mention that when he graduates, we'll FINALLY get to start looking to move back to our families!!!!! It's been a LONG LONG LONG time coming! I'm just so ready to be back by our families so we can feel like we're apart of them again and so Miss K can be with everyone as much as possible. It will be really weird to leave this place since it's been our home for 7 years next month, but we're ready for another big change. I keep trying not to think of everything we'll have to deal with when the time gets closer...haha...but my mind tends to wonder over that way and I start to freak out a little :-)
Another major reason I'm so ready to get back to my hometown besides my family being the #1 reason...but MY FRIENDS. I miss them DEARLY! I'm just amazed at how well I've been able to keep in touch with them being here for so long and not miss a beat with the ones that mean the most to me. I'm also excited to reconnect with some that I sort of lost touch with over the years but there aren't any hard feelings. JUST. CAN'T. WAIT!
I'm also trying to be a good girl with the whole dieting thing because Derek and I are coming up on our 2nd wedding anniversary...and we WILL eat at our favorite place which is NOT the healthiest hahaha! I'll really have to make sure that I get an extra workout or two in that week to make up for the crappy food consumption ;-)
I really ready to hit the 10lbs loss mark! I get to treat myself to a pedicure and my poor feet need it! This hot weather just dries my skin out so bad and my feet are the first to go!
What are some of your guys' "treats" you do for yourself when you hit a milestone in your weight loss journey?? I'm thinking that this is what I want to do for all of mine...
- - 10 pounds - Pedicure
- - 20 pounds - Donate my hair to "Locks of Love" and get me a new hairdo! :-) My hair is ridiculously long right now!
- - 30 pounds - New running shoes - I might switch this with the 20 pound mark...not sure yet.
- - 40 pounds - (Still not sure what to do here....suggestions??)
- - 50 pounds - Something top secret, a small wardrobe refreshing - either maternity clothes or pre-pregnancy clothes, and of course BABY #2!
For those of you sharing the shame weight loss journey, hope you're doing amazing too!!!
LOTS OF LOVE!
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